Morning Drive and Addiction

This very honest account from a local radio host, who for decades was part of a hugely successful morning team, really hit home with me. Although I have not struggled with addiction (if you don’t count Excedrin or sugar), I do understand what it’s like to have to get up at 3 AM every day and try to make yourself go to sleep at 7 or 8 PM. 

Unlike this guy, I could never take Excedrin PM or anything like it because I would feel like a zombie in the morning. I took Ambien ONCE when I was on KDWN and living on two hours’ sleep a night. My doctor prescribed it. I took it at Noon, figuring that I’d have 15 hours to sleep it off before I had to wake up. 

When my husband came home from work at 5 PM, I was asleep in the den. My FIVE dogs, (four over 70 pounds), barked like crazy when Daddy came home, and I NEVER woke up. That was terrifying. I never took it again. 

Don’t get me wrong: I was always wide awake at 3 AM, ready to take on the world. That part you get used to, believe it or not. Most days I was up before my alarm clock. What’s tougher is trying to force yourself to sleep when your body isn’t ready. You feel like an 8 year old kid ALL the time…”gotta got to bed…gotta go to bed…”. And it really sucks in the summer, when it doesn’t get dark (or nice outside) until 8 PM. You want to tell everyone, “Shut UP, I need to go to bed!” 

You spend your days doing nothing but looking for a nap. And you can’t get mad at anyone who’s mowing grass or making any other noise at 2 PM, just because it’s YOUR nap time. I used to be a complete zombie between 11 AM and at least 1 PM. (You can ask anyone who called me). I had to leave a couple of Boards I was on because I couldn’t stay awake during meetings. 

Business lunches are out because you’re falling asleep, and dinners or evening events after 6 are out, because you “gotta got to bed”, and if you stay out, you can’t wind down when you get home. I emceed some evening events, but I was always on one or two hours’ sleep the next day. I had to weigh whether the event was worth the lack of sleep. 

If you don’t nap, and your spouse works normal hours, you are a cranky jerk when they come home. And it’s not good for your marriage to be in your PAJAMAS headed for bed (to sleep) every night when they walk in the door. So you NEED to get that nap in, but then it makes is harder to get back to sleep.

It honestly feels like every 12 hours you’re back in bed. 

Throw in the demands of station appearances in your “off time”, and I can certainly understand how a host could get into deep trouble, just trying to feel normal. 

I can’t even imagine doing AM drive and trying to raise kids.

People who have never worked what is essentially a graveyard shift have no idea what it’s like. They say really helpful things, like, “But you have the WHOLE day, to do anything you want!” (All I WANT is to sleep).

Weekends? Not much better. You wake up hours earlier than your spouse, even if you’d like to sleep in, and of course you’re nodding off by 8. There’s a Big Night Out! 

Experts say you should stay on the same schedule to keep your body used to it, but that’s tough unless you never want to go anywhere or do anything. 

This isn’t to meant to sound whiny, because I had many great years on air in mornings and I thoroughly enjoyed it, but just to tell you that I totally sympathize with this host, who had the added pressure of being number 1 for decades. Money can buy you anything but sleep. 

Heidi Harris

Advice to Candidates

I’m no campaign expert, but in 20 years of talk radio I’ve learned a few things about running for elective office. Here are my tips, and you can take them for what they’re worth: 

If you’re going to run for elective office, ask yourself WHY, and have a good answer. People will expect one. “Because I want the business card” doesn’t cut it. If you’re only seeking a title or glory (which most are), you won’t last long. 

Decide WHICH which office you want to run for and which specific issues or problems you can realistically address or solve if elected. Don’t campaign for School Board or Senate and talk about things you have no power to control legislatively.

Talk to some political experts before you decide to run. Gauge your name recognition, the political climate, who your opponents are likely to be, who will be supporting them and not you, and again, how strong the incumbent is.

Talk to MORE than one or two people. And if all of them advise against it for one reason or another, even if you think their assessment of your brilliance or the incumbent’s incompetence is unfair, you might decide not to move ahead. You can’t buck everyone in the system and win. Even Donald Trump didn’t do it that way.

Oh, and here’s some breaking news: Consultants, printers, and PR people will sometimes lie to you and encourage you to run because they stand to make money off your (doomed) effort. At the end of the day, YOU will have lost the race. Voters won’t remember anyone else’s names. Be realistic about your chances.

Pick the right TIME time to run and the right office to run for. You may really want to be a Senator, Congressman, etc., but there are times it just doesn’t make sense to run, because the seat is held by an incumbent you may loathe but who has a tight reign on it. This may just not be your year. You might have an easier chance with another office or an open seat. 

Be sure you know the facts about the office you seek, what the job actually entails, and the issues voters care about most. The fact that you can enthrall your friends with your amazing ideas at your backyard party doesn’t mean others will be as impressed. Remember, the people who like you often won’t tell you the truth. They’ll applaud anything you do. 

(I get asked every year to run for office – what does THAT tell you?) 

If you don’t have any money or any way to raise it, you’re doomed. You simply are. Politics shouldn’t be about money, but getting your message out costs money, and so does refuting your opponent’s claims about you. That’s just a fact. If people don’t believe in you enough to support you, walk for you, or give you money, that speaks volumes to voters. 

If you have no campaign manager, no name recognition and no momentum, don’t call MY show or any other talk show for an interview and hope that a few minutes on air will make up for your lack of diligence, money, or preparation. We don’t have that much power. (We wish we did sometimes)

NO, the fact that you’re well known in one field does NOT mean you’re popular or will be taken seriously by those in political circles. You have to earn their respect before you earn that of the voters, and that takes time. No one is going to put a crown on your head because you’re been on TV or a stage for years. (Unless you’re Donald Trump) 

Running for office is hard work, but we need good people or our nation will suffer. Don’t give up if you want to make a difference, but get your ducks in a row! Take running for office as seriously as you’d take the job, and you just might have a chance! 

Heidi Harris

What? Heidi Has a NEW Show on Local Radio? Yep!

Well, after a few months off from commercial radio, during which I’ve been podcasting, writing, speaking, and promoting my latest book, I’m happy to announce that I will be bringing the Heidi Harris Show to AM 670 KMZQ beginning Tuesday, May 1st. 

I’m very excited about doing this show, which will air weekdays from 9-10 AM. These hours will allow me to have something very unique in talk radio – a radio show and a LIFE. As you can imagine, talk radio is a very consuming business, and honestly, as I’ve told people for six months, I haven’t missed my previous schedule one day. 

Don’t get me wrong – I love talking about issues that matter and how to make our country better, but I haven’t missed the attachment to the phone, news updates, etc. Striking the balance has always been a challenge in talk radio, as it is in many other occupations, when you have news and information coming at you 24/7.

I had no idea that I’d ever do another talk show on commercial radio, and I’m thrilled at the chance to do it again. God opened a door I didn’t even knock on, as only He can do. 

My detractors who thought they silenced me never actually did, as I continued standing up for Truth in various forums. No one can stop God’s plan for a Believer’s life, and they waste their time if they try. 

Who would have guessed a local station would flip to conservative talk a few months after I’d been fired? Certainly not me. What were the odds that would have happened? Worse than the odds in Roulette. 

And who would have guessed that KMZQ would invite me to join their great lineup of real conservative hosts, including Medved, Prager, Gallagher, and Elder? Certainly not me. 

All this goes to prove is that God’s plan is greater than we can ever imagine. My identity has never come from my occupation, and if God had wanted me off the air forever I would have been fine with His plan. But He clearly had other things in mind for me. 

My new show at KMZQ is an exciting opportunity to once again talk about local issues from an actual local’s perspective – someone they can’t lie to because I was here before these politicians were politicians. And of course we’ll be taking your calls on the biggest news stories of the day. 

I thank all of you who have been so incredibly supportive during the last few months, and have prayed for me, followed me, read my book, and listened to my podcasts. It means more than you’ll ever know. 

I look forward to this new show, and I hope you do too! Let’s make it a weekday date, 9-10 AM! 

Standing firm,

Heidi

Evangelical meeting turned to Trump bashing. Not very helpful, Brethren.

Recently a meeting of evangelical “leaders” got nasty when it degenerated into Trump bashing, causing many to walk out.

Christians cannot and should not make excuses for anyone’s moral failures, including our own, or those of our President. But we also should respect the office. Yes, we should always hold our elected officials accountable, and thank God we live in a country where that’s even possible. 

I have to ask those self-righteous “leaders” who complain about Trump’s failures: What was your plan? Stay home and get HILLARY elected? Those were your choices, kids. Jesus wasn’t on the ballot. 

“How could any evangelical vote for him….?” I’ve heard that argument over and over. Once again, it was HIM or HER. There were other (also flawed) people running, but they didn’t get the nomination. And how many sins have YOU “leaders” committed, hmm? 

As I have stated in the past, Trump’s moral failures become our business when they could lead to blackmail, or when they become a distraction to what he’s trying to accomplish for America. 

Yes, he’s narcissistic and shallow, like most of our leaders have been.  Those are qualities shared by nearly every boss you’ve ever had, but that doesn’t mean there’s no value to what they say or do. 

I honestly think Trump never expected to win, but I also believe he’s trying to do what he believes will make our country better. He has done things that will have lasting impact on our nation, flawed or not. And if all he accomplishes during his time as President is to put a speed bump in the Dems’ schemes, that’s more than enough for me. 

We follow God, not public officials. Christians have a duty to live their lives according to GOD’S plan, regardless of who’s in charge. Read the Old Testament. How many bad kings “…did evil in the sight of the Lord…”? I lost count. Yet the people were expected to follow God’s plan, not man’s. 

What about the New Testament, when evil rulers like Nero were in full swing? Did the Apostle Paul say, “You really need to protest Nero, he’s morally bankrupt…” NO. He called for Christian UNITY, which has never been related to any rulers. 

Those so-called evangelical leaders had better remember that we are to lead our lives according to God’s plan, not man’s. We will have good rulers and bad, but our responsibility is to God. And thanks to our Founding Fathers we have a pretty good system in place that prevents the bad rulers from doing too much damage.

Romans 13:1 “Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God.” 

Squabbling among the brethren is what The Enemy wants. He wants to sow discord, because that’s how he makes headway. We need to stay focused on God, not ANY politician. We must pray for our leaders, that they would take good decisions, but we must always remember that God put them there, and His plan is not affected by them. 

Psalm 146:3 “Do not put your trust in Princes…”

Heidi Harris

#MeToo And The Effect Fathers Have on Girls

The problem we have with the #metoo women is very simple – some women don’t understand men.

We have several generations of women in America today who grew up without fathers, or at least good fathers, and you can blame Mom for that. It was her decision to marry or breed with a bum. The FIRST person who affects your destiny is your mom, by choosing your dad. 

The ability to love and appreciate men doesn’t start when you hit puberty, ladies; it begins when you’re a little girl and you’re the light of your father’s life. When you know that he would never hurt you and that you can trust him completely. That foundation and belief makes you a stronger girl, and a adult woman more equipped to handle things in life, including men when they’re unprofessional or condescending in the workplace. 

Too many women today don’t have a balanced view of men. They are offended by masculinity in any form. They are freaked out by men who hunt or are willing to die to protect the freedoms we all take for granted. Good luck with that man search, ladies! You’ve brought this on yourselves. I guess you want a she-man you can boss around. 

If you have a balanced view of men, you’re not offended anytime a man pays you a compliment, or “triggered” by a catcall. 

Women are hooking up on the first date, before even finishing that first drink, moving in by the second date, and then we whine that men don’t respect us? We have cheapened our brand, ladies. 

A study conducted by Career Builder a few years go found that 40% of people surveyed have dated someone at work, and many of them have dated more than one person at work. People are working longer hours, but with all the “sensitivities” in the workplace, good luck finding love there. You’ve got men scared to death.

Nowadays, if a man tells a woman he likes her dress, he’ll wind up in HR, even though she spent an hour choosing that dress because it would appeal to the men in the office or her male clients.  

In my first book, Cocktail Waitress Wisdom, Life Lessons Learned While Carrying a Tray in Las Vegas, I describe the numerous situations I handled myself. I’ve been working for nearly 40 years, and have never filed an HR complaint about a male co-worker or supervisor, although I certainly had cause a time or two. I have handled it myself, every time, like a big girl.

We want to fly fighter jets and run the country, but when it comes to men being men and the sexual tension you’re bound to find in a workplace, we act like some 1920’s movie star having a fainting spell. That doesn’t bode well for your love life or the future of our nation. You want respect, ladies? Demand it. But you won’t find it whining in HR. 

 

Heidi Harris

Two Appearances Today!

Today at 11:30, I’ll be speaking at the Nevada Does Business lunch at Gordon Biersch, Paradise and Flamingo. You can come by and have lunch ($26) or just stop by and buy a book ($15, or $20 for both my new book and my first book)

Or you can stop by the Nevada Business Meeting at the Art Gallery at Neonopolis downtown. I’ll be there at 2 PM with my books. Other speakers will include Bob Beers, Danny Tarkanian and Dan Schwartz!

My new book “Don’t Pat Me On The Head” released today!

“Don’t Pat Me On The Head” covers how I “lucked into” a radio job, and how I survived blowback for my opinions and the professional setbacks all of us face.

I also reveal how I pick guests, topics, and callers, I’ve got interview tips, and some behind the scenes stories you’ve never heard.

I’ve got a chapter on the REAL story of why I’ve left various radio jobs and how I’ve handled treacherous bosses and co-workers.

If you love radio, you’ll love this (even if you don’t love ME). If you’ve ever been kicked around, regardless of occupation, you’ll be able to relate to these stories.

Pick it up today!!!

Former Planned Parenthood Provider Reveals How She SOLD Abortions

Some of you think that Planned Parenthood was created to help teens and others who want to have “safe sex”. This woman, a former abortion provider, tell us how they SOLD abortion. Their goal was 3 to 5 abortion before age 18.

Everyone needs to hear this.

Fox News Panders to People Who DON’T Watch or Read Them

Honestly, gay rights in NOT my favorite subject, but these days the stories are coming out faster than I can keep up.

Once again, another company is pandering to the gay rights activist who DON’T watch or listen to them anyway. (Been there, done that). Fox News removed Executive Vice President John Moody’s online OPINION columnn because some gay rights groups didn’t like what he had to say. What???

The activists could have “tolerated” his opinion of course, looked the other way, or ignored it, but instead they want him silenced. And what’s worse than those who demand censorship is that the people at Fox folded like cheap tents.

What ever happened to “You don’t like it? Oh, that’s too bad. Sorry, the column/show/person STAYS.” What is everyone AFRAID of? What’s the WORST that could happen?

Every time we cede ground to email terrorists, our culture loses. And the people who tune in for a conservative viewpoint are again disappointed by cultural weenies who don’t stand for anything. You cannot program a radio or TV station with the sole purpose of not ruffling feathers. That attitude is killing talk radio, and it’s killing so-called “conservative” TV networks.

Heidi Harris

The 1979 Gay Manifesto: How much have they achieved?

This is the manifesto written by gay activists in 1979. Notice what they are opposed to? FAMILIES, RELIGION…

“The very form of the family works against homosexuality.”

Here’s their list of demands. Many of their goals have been achieved already:

“That all discrimination against gay people, male and female, by the law, by employers, and by society at large, should end.

That all people who feel attracted to a member of their own sex be taught that such feeling are perfectly valid.

That sex education in schools stop being exclusively heterosexual.

That psychiatrists stop treating homosexuality as though it were a sickness, thereby giving gay people senseless guilt complexes.

That gay people be as legally free to contact other gay people, though newspaper ads, on the streets and by any other means they may want as are heterosexuals, and that police harassment should cease right now.

That employers should no longer be allowed to discriminate against anyone on account of their sexual preferences.

That the age of consent for gay males be reduced to the same as for straight.

That gay people be free to hold hands and kiss in public, as are heterosexuals.”

Clearly some of these demands are perfectly reasonable, such as not being harassed by police, or being allowed to contact each other (the internet solved that problem). But the bottom line is that this manifesto DEMANDS that everyone AGREE with something. No one can demand that.

As I have said repeatedly, I don’t care what any consenting adults do with each other, (unless they’re cheating on spouses and kids are involved, and then they are rats). It’s simply NONE of my business. But no one has the right to demand ACCEPTANCE and APPLAUSE for their behavior, gay, straight or otherwise.

Heidi Harris