#MeToo And The Effect Fathers Have on Girls

The problem we have with the #metoo women is very simple – some women don’t understand men.

We have several generations of women in America today who grew up without fathers, or at least good fathers, and you can blame Mom for that. It was her decision to marry or breed with a bum. The FIRST person who affects your destiny is your mom, by choosing your dad. 

The ability to love and appreciate men doesn’t start when you hit puberty, ladies; it begins when you’re a little girl and you’re the light of your father’s life. When you know that he would never hurt you and that you can trust him completely. That foundation and belief makes you a stronger girl, and a adult woman more equipped to handle things in life, including men when they’re unprofessional or condescending in the workplace. 

Too many women today don’t have a balanced view of men. They are offended by masculinity in any form. They are freaked out by men who hunt or are willing to die to protect the freedoms we all take for granted. Good luck with that man search, ladies! You’ve brought this on yourselves. I guess you want a she-man you can boss around. 

If you have a balanced view of men, you’re not offended anytime a man pays you a compliment, or “triggered” by a catcall. 

Women are hooking up on the first date, before even finishing that first drink, moving in by the second date, and then we whine that men don’t respect us? We have cheapened our brand, ladies. 

A study conducted by Career Builder a few years go found that 40% of people surveyed have dated someone at work, and many of them have dated more than one person at work. People are working longer hours, but with all the “sensitivities” in the workplace, good luck finding love there. You’ve got men scared to death.

Nowadays, if a man tells a woman he likes her dress, he’ll wind up in HR, even though she spent an hour choosing that dress because it would appeal to the men in the office or her male clients.  

In my first book, Cocktail Waitress Wisdom, Life Lessons Learned While Carrying a Tray in Las Vegas, I describe the numerous situations I handled myself. I’ve been working for nearly 40 years, and have never filed an HR complaint about a male co-worker or supervisor, although I certainly had cause a time or two. I have handled it myself, every time, like a big girl.

We want to fly fighter jets and run the country, but when it comes to men being men and the sexual tension you’re bound to find in a workplace, we act like some 1920’s movie star having a fainting spell. That doesn’t bode well for your love life or the future of our nation. You want respect, ladies? Demand it. But you won’t find it whining in HR. 

 

Heidi Harris

Two Appearances Today!

Today at 11:30, I’ll be speaking at the Nevada Does Business lunch at Gordon Biersch, Paradise and Flamingo. You can come by and have lunch ($26) or just stop by and buy a book ($15, or $20 for both my new book and my first book)

Or you can stop by the Nevada Business Meeting at the Art Gallery at Neonopolis downtown. I’ll be there at 2 PM with my books. Other speakers will include Bob Beers, Danny Tarkanian and Dan Schwartz!

My new book “Don’t Pat Me On The Head” released today!

“Don’t Pat Me On The Head” covers how I “lucked into” a radio job, and how I survived blowback for my opinions and the professional setbacks all of us face.

I also reveal how I pick guests, topics, and callers, I’ve got interview tips, and some behind the scenes stories you’ve never heard.

I’ve got a chapter on the REAL story of why I’ve left various radio jobs and how I’ve handled treacherous bosses and co-workers.

If you love radio, you’ll love this (even if you don’t love ME). If you’ve ever been kicked around, regardless of occupation, you’ll be able to relate to these stories.

Pick it up today!!!

Former Planned Parenthood Provider Reveals How She SOLD Abortions

Some of you think that Planned Parenthood was created to help teens and others who want to have “safe sex”. This woman, a former abortion provider, tell us how they SOLD abortion. Their goal was 3 to 5 abortion before age 18.

Everyone needs to hear this.

Fox News Panders to People Who DON’T Watch or Read Them

Honestly, gay rights in NOT my favorite subject, but these days the stories are coming out faster than I can keep up.

Once again, another company is pandering to the gay rights activist who DON’T watch or listen to them anyway. (Been there, done that). Fox News removed Executive Vice President John Moody’s online OPINION columnn because some gay rights groups didn’t like what he had to say. What???

The activists could have “tolerated” his opinion of course, looked the other way, or ignored it, but instead they want him silenced. And what’s worse than those who demand censorship is that the people at Fox folded like cheap tents.

What ever happened to “You don’t like it? Oh, that’s too bad. Sorry, the column/show/person STAYS.” What is everyone AFRAID of? What’s the WORST that could happen?

Every time we cede ground to email terrorists, our culture loses. And the people who tune in for a conservative viewpoint are again disappointed by cultural weenies who don’t stand for anything. You cannot program a radio or TV station with the sole purpose of not ruffling feathers. That attitude is killing talk radio, and it’s killing so-called “conservative” TV networks.

Heidi Harris

The 1979 Gay Manifesto: How much have they achieved?

This is the manifesto written by gay activists in 1979. Notice what they are opposed to? FAMILIES, RELIGION…

“The very form of the family works against homosexuality.”

Here’s their list of demands. Many of their goals have been achieved already:

“That all discrimination against gay people, male and female, by the law, by employers, and by society at large, should end.

That all people who feel attracted to a member of their own sex be taught that such feeling are perfectly valid.

That sex education in schools stop being exclusively heterosexual.

That psychiatrists stop treating homosexuality as though it were a sickness, thereby giving gay people senseless guilt complexes.

That gay people be as legally free to contact other gay people, though newspaper ads, on the streets and by any other means they may want as are heterosexuals, and that police harassment should cease right now.

That employers should no longer be allowed to discriminate against anyone on account of their sexual preferences.

That the age of consent for gay males be reduced to the same as for straight.

That gay people be free to hold hands and kiss in public, as are heterosexuals.”

Clearly some of these demands are perfectly reasonable, such as not being harassed by police, or being allowed to contact each other (the internet solved that problem). But the bottom line is that this manifesto DEMANDS that everyone AGREE with something. No one can demand that.

As I have said repeatedly, I don’t care what any consenting adults do with each other, (unless they’re cheating on spouses and kids are involved, and then they are rats). It’s simply NONE of my business. But no one has the right to demand ACCEPTANCE and APPLAUSE for their behavior, gay, straight or otherwise.

Heidi Harris

People who pass through the orbit of your life

I just heard that another of the radio executives who tried to hinder my career has been shown the door. Almost all of them are out of the business. Sooner or later we all get the boot or move on, don’t we?

I don’t dance on graves, and I sure won’t dance on his. It’s just a reminder that people are always coming and going, passing through the orbit of your life, but none of them are in charge of your life. God is. His plan for you never changes, and He certainly has a hand in who’s in your life at various times.

Remember that His plan is fulfilled through people who sometimes test you or try to discourage you, and sometimes, if you’re really blessed, encourage you. Big people will do that; small ones won’t.

Remember that even if you love your job and the people you work with, as I did in my last job, nothing is permanent. Everything and everyone is in flux at all times. When you think people have it “all together”, you really have no idea what they’re going through.

Don’t put your trust in what might seem to be an ideal work situation, co-workers or money you’re happy with, or feel that God has abandoned you because your career isn’t quite what you would have wanted. Things are always changing, but God never changes, nor does His plan for you.

Heidi Harris

What student debt is really costing us.

One of the aspects of the student debt problem that no one wants to acknowledge is what it’s doing to families. If you can only earn $40 or $50K a year after you get that fancy degree, which most college grads do, you will never pay off your student loan debts of hundreds of thousands while you’re still young enough to have children. So that means your kid will be raised by strangers while you’re frantically trying to pay the salaries of (mostly liberal) college professors, who would prefer your kid be in care care.

You are told you won’t be able to have any kind of life without a college degree, but aren’t told what that overpriced piece of paper will really do to your life. Colleges get away with this because they recycle students every few years, so no one is around long enough to complain.

Higher education, while important to some occupations, is the biggest racket in the world, if you consider the ratio of expenditures to outcome. You are lied to about the value of that degree versus the debt you incur, and what it really costs you, and us, as a society.

Prospective students ought to be able to see a spreadsheet of what the degree will really cost versus what kinds of jobs they will really be prepared for as a result. I know too many people whose kids are doing jobs they didn’t need a college degree for even after college, while paying off mountains of useless debt.

Although no one can take away that degree you’ve earned, if it’s enslaving you and forcing you to give up being the primary influence over your children, what’s the point?

Heidi Harris

Why is one woman’s change of lifestyle so offensive to some people?

Why is this controversial? She left a lifestyle – wasn’t that was HER “choice” to make? If people are entitled to sexual freedom, whatever makes them happy, (or so we are told) why are some gay people upset? This made her happy; in her case, gay relationships weren’t accomplishing that.

Some say she’s going to ‘drive young gays to suicide’. Seriously? How could that be? This is one person who made a choice for herself. She’s not forcing anyone else to believe anything or do anything. If you’re happy with YOUR choices in life, why do you worry about what others do? Just dismiss people like her as misguided.

BTW, this topic is covered in my upcoming book, Don’t Pat Me On The Head.

Heidi Harris

Spending your life in futile endeavors

I’ve been reading the book of Ecclesiastes this week, and although I’ve read it before, I’ve been reading it more closely. Basically, the theme of the book is the futility of spending your life seeking temporary riches, knowledge and power, instead of eternal things.

Solomon, the author of Ecclesiastes, had everything people think will be make them happy: money, women, power, knowledge…and he realized it meant nothing, nor did it bring him happiness or fulfillment.

There’s nothing wrong with making money, having it and spending it, but not if you put your trust in it is futility. Title, power, “fame”, influence? Those can be “taken” from you in a second, and few people will remember you when you’re gone.

You should live every day as if it might be your last, care for the people you love, and of course meet your obligations, but never take your mind off eternal things. Many of the “obligations” we claim to have are self-imposed and not really important. We all have to make a living, but don’t forget while you’re at it, to make a life.

“Better is a handful of quietness than two hands full of toil and striving after wind.” Ecclesiastes 4:6

Heidi Harris