Heidi Harris Show Podcast #69: Parents, the First Line of Defense in Ending Gun Violence

Once again, there are more calls for gun control in light of the latest school shooting, but where are the PARENTS? In the Santa Fe Texas shooting, the kid killed a girl and other because he was romantically REJECTED? She publicly told him off? Sounds like he pestered her so much he was asking for it. Gee, how many other boys were rejected and moved ON with their lives? And once again, police are able to find out things about how a shooter was thinking that parents didn’t know (or want to know). FAMILIES are the first line of defense against anything.

If you allow your kid to have a computer in his or her room, shame on you. You need to be IN your kids’ business, before they become society’s problem.

Morning Drive and Addiction

This very honest account from a local radio host, who for decades was part of a hugely successful morning team, really hit home with me. Although I have not struggled with addiction (if you don’t count Excedrin or sugar), I do understand what it’s like to have to get up at 3 AM every day and try to make yourself go to sleep at 7 or 8 PM. 

Unlike this guy, I could never take Excedrin PM or anything like it because I would feel like a zombie in the morning. I took Ambien ONCE when I was on KDWN and living on two hours’ sleep a night. My doctor prescribed it. I took it at Noon, figuring that I’d have 15 hours to sleep it off before I had to wake up. 

When my husband came home from work at 5 PM, I was asleep in the den. My FIVE dogs, (four over 70 pounds), barked like crazy when Daddy came home, and I NEVER woke up. That was terrifying. I never took it again. 

Don’t get me wrong: I was always wide awake at 3 AM, ready to take on the world. That part you get used to, believe it or not. Most days I was up before my alarm clock. What’s tougher is trying to force yourself to sleep when your body isn’t ready. You feel like an 8 year old kid ALL the time…”gotta got to bed…gotta go to bed…”. And it really sucks in the summer, when it doesn’t get dark (or nice outside) until 8 PM. You want to tell everyone, “Shut UP, I need to go to bed!” 

You spend your days doing nothing but looking for a nap. And you can’t get mad at anyone who’s mowing grass or making any other noise at 2 PM, just because it’s YOUR nap time. I used to be a complete zombie between 11 AM and at least 1 PM. (You can ask anyone who called me). I had to leave a couple of Boards I was on because I couldn’t stay awake during meetings. 

Business lunches are out because you’re falling asleep, and dinners or evening events after 6 are out, because you “gotta got to bed”, and if you stay out, you can’t wind down when you get home. I emceed some evening events, but I was always on one or two hours’ sleep the next day. I had to weigh whether the event was worth the lack of sleep. 

If you don’t nap, and your spouse works normal hours, you are a cranky jerk when they come home. And it’s not good for your marriage to be in your PAJAMAS headed for bed (to sleep) every night when they walk in the door. So you NEED to get that nap in, but then it makes is harder to get back to sleep.

It honestly feels like every 12 hours you’re back in bed. 

Throw in the demands of station appearances in your “off time”, and I can certainly understand how a host could get into deep trouble, just trying to feel normal. 

I can’t even imagine doing AM drive and trying to raise kids.

People who have never worked what is essentially a graveyard shift have no idea what it’s like. They say really helpful things, like, “But you have the WHOLE day, to do anything you want!” (All I WANT is to sleep).

Weekends? Not much better. You wake up hours earlier than your spouse, even if you’d like to sleep in, and of course you’re nodding off by 8. There’s a Big Night Out! 

Experts say you should stay on the same schedule to keep your body used to it, but that’s tough unless you never want to go anywhere or do anything. 

This isn’t to meant to sound whiny, because I had many great years on air in mornings and I thoroughly enjoyed it, but just to tell you that I totally sympathize with this host, who had the added pressure of being number 1 for decades. Money can buy you anything but sleep. 

Heidi Harris

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #68: Is Dialing 911 the New Racism?

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Twitter should be renamed kneejerk.com because of the way people literally “jump the gun” without having ANY facts when events are unfolding.

Writer and TV host Toure’ says that the ability to call police and be automatically believed is an example of white power and privilege. Is he right? And what about kids who are taught that cops are out to get them from day one? How will the lives of the people in communities who distrust cops ever improve? If you can’t report crimes to the police, the criminals are in charge.

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #67: Nevada Madam on Why Courtesans Are Really Feminists

A Nevada brothel madam joined me to explain why she sees prostitution as a feminist job. Obviously I think it’s immoral, but that doesn’t mean I judge the ladies in the industry. I wanted you to hear how that side of the argument feels about it.

For me, it’s sad that men and women can’t find one person and have a happy life, sexually and otherwise, and sex is supposed to be sacred, but I understand that’s not the reality or belief of every person. My opinion hasn’t changed, because it’s based on principle, but I’m always nice to my guests, whether I agree with them or not.

Advice to Candidates

I’m no campaign expert, but in 20 years of talk radio I’ve learned a few things about running for elective office. Here are my tips, and you can take them for what they’re worth: 

If you’re going to run for elective office, ask yourself WHY, and have a good answer. People will expect one. “Because I want the business card” doesn’t cut it. If you’re only seeking a title or glory (which most are), you won’t last long. 

Decide WHICH which office you want to run for and which specific issues or problems you can realistically address or solve if elected. Don’t campaign for School Board or Senate and talk about things you have no power to control legislatively.

Talk to some political experts before you decide to run. Gauge your name recognition, the political climate, who your opponents are likely to be, who will be supporting them and not you, and again, how strong the incumbent is.

Talk to MORE than one or two people. And if all of them advise against it for one reason or another, even if you think their assessment of your brilliance or the incumbent’s incompetence is unfair, you might decide not to move ahead. You can’t buck everyone in the system and win. Even Donald Trump didn’t do it that way.

Oh, and here’s some breaking news: Consultants, printers, and PR people will sometimes lie to you and encourage you to run because they stand to make money off your (doomed) effort. At the end of the day, YOU will have lost the race. Voters won’t remember anyone else’s names. Be realistic about your chances.

Pick the right TIME time to run and the right office to run for. You may really want to be a Senator, Congressman, etc., but there are times it just doesn’t make sense to run, because the seat is held by an incumbent you may loathe but who has a tight reign on it. This may just not be your year. You might have an easier chance with another office or an open seat. 

Be sure you know the facts about the office you seek, what the job actually entails, and the issues voters care about most. The fact that you can enthrall your friends with your amazing ideas at your backyard party doesn’t mean others will be as impressed. Remember, the people who like you often won’t tell you the truth. They’ll applaud anything you do. 

(I get asked every year to run for office – what does THAT tell you?) 

If you don’t have any money or any way to raise it, you’re doomed. You simply are. Politics shouldn’t be about money, but getting your message out costs money, and so does refuting your opponent’s claims about you. That’s just a fact. If people don’t believe in you enough to support you, walk for you, or give you money, that speaks volumes to voters. 

If you have no campaign manager, no name recognition and no momentum, don’t call MY show or any other talk show for an interview and hope that a few minutes on air will make up for your lack of diligence, money, or preparation. We don’t have that much power. (We wish we did sometimes)

NO, the fact that you’re well known in one field does NOT mean you’re popular or will be taken seriously by those in political circles. You have to earn their respect before you earn that of the voters, and that takes time. No one is going to put a crown on your head because you’re been on TV or a stage for years. (Unless you’re Donald Trump) 

Running for office is hard work, but we need good people or our nation will suffer. Don’t give up if you want to make a difference, but get your ducks in a row! Take running for office as seriously as you’d take the job, and you just might have a chance! 

Heidi Harris

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #66: PEPCON Disaster Survivor Speaks

In May 1988, PEPCON, a Henderson factory that made ammonium and sodium perchlorate, blew up. The explosions were heard ALL over the Las Vegas valley, and windows and doors in houses and businesses were blown out for miles around.

Everyone who was in Las Vegas on the fateful day remembers where they were. Dominick Rodriguez, who nowadays is my Pastor, was IN the building when things went awry. Here’s his story.

If anyone knows who was driving the paving machine that knocked the back fence down, allowing man workers to escape, let me know…

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #65: Our Temporary, Throw-Away Society

It’s sad to realize how little we regard most things these days. We start teaching our kids from day one that things can and should be easily discarded, upgraded and replaced. As we grow up we tend to treat everything in our lives that way; jobs, spouses, friendships.

As a genuine conservative, I’m big on repurposing, reusing, rescuing and rehabilitating (animals, not men). Can we do anything about our casual disregard for possessions and people?

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #64: Is it Really SEXISM That Depresses Women, or Something Else?

A recent “study” seems to indicate that women are more often depressed because of “sexism” in the work place. Sure, it exists, as does racism, but who hasn’t been screwed over at work? Who hasn’t been overlooked while someone less talented gets ahead?

What kind of young women are we raising, who can’t handle it and work harder to prove the doubters wrong?

Frankly, women have been LIED to for decades about what they can realistically achieve. No, you can’t have it all, at least not all at once, and that realization is what has them more depressed than sexism. I guarantee it.

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #63: No, Prostitution Isn’t Just a Simple Business Transaction

There’s a push to eliminate legal prostitution in Pahrump and some other places in Nevada. I’m always dismayed when I hear people saying things like, “It’s just a transaction between two willing people…” Really? Then why is it a bigger deal if you’re raped than if someone grabs your purse? Hmmm?

It’s a sad industry that hurts people on both sides of the equation.

 

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #62: Columnist Asks How Evangelicals Can Support Trump

David French, columnist for National Review, and a man whose opinion and background I respect, cannot understand how evangelicals can still defend Trump. Of course he was a “never Trumper”. It seems to me that we should never overlook or defend bad behavior, but since God puts elected officials in place, even very flawed ones, in order to further His purposes, shouldn’t we all relax?

Yes, integrity matters, and Trump wasn’t my first or tenth choice, but ultimately God’s plan is not hindered by bad leaders. I refer you to the Old Testament, where 75% of the kings were evil.