Heidi Harris Show Podcast #208: Don’t give social media haters power over your psyche

As a radio host, I get trashed by people a lot, and of course I can take it. It comes with the territory. But if you find yourself getting depressed or feeling like you’re constantly under attack or obligated to respond to every hater, you can step away, you know. From friends, family, strangers…you don’t have to engage them. You can block, ignore, unfollow, whatever it is. You don’t OWE them your time, or space in your head. Think of the people you truly admire and ask yourself what THEY are doing. They’re probably not attacking others on social media. You’ll find that if you take that approach, you’ll feel much better.

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #207: What I learned by surviving Covid-19

Yep, I got Covid-19, even though I was as careful as possible. In this podcast I talk about my symptoms, lessons learned, and the experience I had with a friend whose symptoms were very different than mine.

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #206: Former POW’s Alcorn and Long on their captivity

In honor of Memorial Day and the amazing people who gave so much for our freedom, here’s an interview I did with a couple of men who’d been captured and held in Hanoi for 5 and 7 years, respectively. Major Steven Long, USAF, and Captain Ray Alcorn, USN, were kind enough to sit with me and discuss their captivity, and what they think of the anti-war movement and politicians who interfere with military objectives.

They’ve both passed on in recent years, but they both represented the very BEST of what America has to offer.

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #205: Classic interviews – “Goodfellas” mobster Henry Hill

I’ve done many interesting interviews over the years, and one that was particularly memorable was my chat with Henry Hill, the man whose life story is the basis for the movie “Goodfellas”. Henry has passed away since, but this was a fun chat. Before you listen to this interview, I suggest you re-watch Goodfellas, to refresh your memory. We discussed what was accurate in the movie, versus what was embellished for Hollywood. Enjoy!

(I think I had too much caffeine that day…wow, am I talking fast!)

Heidi Harris show Podcast #204: Classic interviews – Legendary Jazz singer, pianist Joe Darro

Joe Darro is a Vegas legend, playing piano and singing here since the 1950’s. At 85, he still sings and plays like a man half his age, and has played for everyone who’s anyone (even me). I swear, the man knows every song in any key. He also played with my dad (a trumpet player) back in the heyday of Vegas. He’s got great stories about the greats, and knows Vegas musical history, because he helped MAKE it.

Joe has great stories about Jack Jones, Debbie Reynolds, Joe Williams, Sammy Davis Jr. and a very drunk Judy Garland! He even turned down $10,000 from the National Enquirer to sneak a camera into of Wayne Newton’s wedding that he was playing.

He and I sat down right after a gig he was playing, coincidentally, the weekend before Vegas was shut down. Guys like Joe Darro made Vegas what it was, musically. Enjoy!

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #203: What’s happening with unemployment in Nevada?

In fairness to the state of Nevada, this amount of unemployment is unprecedented, but I know people who haven’t gotten a DIME in over 8 weeks, and that doesn’t include the independent contractors. Subrina Hudson, Business Reporter for the Las Vegas Review Journal, joined me to discuss. She recently spoke with the head of DETR (unemployment) in Nevada, and has some insight on what’s happening, (or not happening).

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #202: Rachel Gilson, “Born (again) this way”

I came across a very important book by a woman who has been involved with women in her younger years, became a Christian, and eventually married a man. The book is called “Born (again) This Way”, by Rachel Gilson.

Her story is not quite as neat as that description sounds. Same sex attraction is treated by some churches as the worst possible sin. Is it? What about gossip? Most churches ignore that one, and frankly gossip destroys more relationships than anything else I have seen. The concepts Rachel talks about in her book go far beyond gay or straight. We are all MORE than our temptations, sexual or otherwise, or at least we should be…

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #201: Dr. Dale Carrison on Covid-19 and opening Nevada

Dr. Dale Carrison was my guest for this podcast. He was the Chief of Emergency Medicine at UMC, Nevada’s busiest hospital, for decades. Now he’s still giving back, semi-retired but still on the front lines and training paramedics in Northern Nevada. He joined me for a chat about the Coronavirus, Covid-19, latest findings, effect on Nevada’s economy, and Mayor Carolyn Goodman’s comments about opening up Nevada.

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #200: Las Vegas Mayor Carolyn Goodman on the #VegasShutdown

Mayor Carolyn Goodman is being trashed in the press for an interview she did with CNN’s Anderson Cooper, who in my opinion was condescending, to say the least. He’s just another guy who’s not missing a check, while telling us to stay home.

The Mayor has been a fierce defender of Vegas and free enterprise, while the “pearl clutchers” tell us to stay home, go broke, and “be patient”. She joined me moments after her CNN interview.

Keep government out of your life – make better decisions!

A person’s own folly leads to their ruin, yet their heart rages against the Lord.” Proverbs 19:3

Here’s some breaking news: Our elected officials mostly suck. They’re often incompetent or power hungry, and the last thing most of them care about is YOU, at least until the next election. 

Yes, they have responsibilities as elected officials, and we expect them to do what they were elected to do, since we can’t watch them every minute. However, when it gets right down to it. it’s YOUR job to care about your family and make sure they have what they need in a time of crisis, manufactured or not. Blaming this person or that party does nothing to move the ball forward, nor does it improve your life, although there’s clearly plenty of blame to go around at this moment. 

Lots of people complain about government, and to a large degree they’re right. The best way to keep government out of your life is to make good decisions and not give them entree into it. Save your money. Marry the right person and don’t screw it up. Raise your kids right. Don’t put your family in the hands of judges. 

This shutdown is unforeseen and totally unfair to the hardworking people of America. What galls me most is the people who are making these decisions about our futures aren’t missing a paycheck. They aren’t going to lose their family business if we’re shut down another month. Easy for them to make proclamations, right? But living your life correctly is something you should do regardless of who’s in office, or what decisions they make. 

Every financial expert in the world tells you to save 3-6 months’ living expenses at a minimum. If everyone had done this, there wouldn’t be lines for free food, and people freaking out in a week. I saw a two-mile line for free food ONE WEEK after the layoffs. One week! People, you need to plan better. 

And why are people sitting in food lines with cars that are clearly new? I’ve seen them with dealer’s paper plates still on them. 

I don’t care what kind of car you drive, but you clearly can’t afford a financed car if you don’t have a week’s worth of FOOD in your house. I posted something about that the other day on social media, and people said, “some people are picking up food for others who don’t have cars”. In a $60,000 car? If you can afford that, you should be buying the food for others and not taking up space in a line meant for truly needy people! 

What are you teaching for children about leading a responsible life when you’re that broke that soon? Days after your last paycheck? I don’t care how much you make, you can curb your lifestyle and save some of it. I know very well what it’s like to be fired unexpectedly. I was fired a few years ago, one week after I bought a house. I had signed the papers and hadn’t even moved in yet, so yes, I know what it’s like to go into lockdown mode. You make correct decisions to ensure your survival, knowing that God will meet your needs, but not necessarily all of your wants. 

Some people are always broke, all the time, no matter how much they make. You know them and I know them. They have no money management skills. They whine on the phone to friends, borrow money from family, and always seem to have little “emergencies” that come up. Now those same people are crying that their government “relief” isn’t immediately in their bank account, never acknowledging that their poor financial decisions have put them at the mercy of government.

If you don’t marry well, you’re stuck either living with someone you can’t stand, or fighting over “who gets the kids during a lockdown”, you have screwed up somewhere, Maybe you chose poorly, or make you were a crappy husband or wife. Either way that stress is self-imposed, and not the government’s fault. 

There are people who are “independent contractors” who now expect unemployment. Once again, none of this lockdown this is their fault, but did they declare all their income when doing those gigs? Hmmm? If not, good luck. More bad decisions. 

If you’re in a tough spot, don’t give up – take action. Sit down with your bills, honestly evaluate your situation and formulate a plan. What do you need, and what can you cut, at least for now? You’ll feel better if you take control of what you can control. Maybe you’ll have to turn in your financed car and buy a Boulder Highway beater. So what?

Maybe cancel cable and all those unnecessary entertainment packages. Move in with family. Adapt. It’s called survival, and the fact is, no one knows when Vegas will return to any semblance of “normal”, or if you’ll have your old job when this is over.

A crisis is a great way of separating the wheat from the chaff. Although it might be tough for a while, resilient and resourceful people will sail through it, while some others will curl into a ball and (once again) blame everyone else. Sure it’s unfair, but life isn’t fair, and events are rarely within your control. But the decisions you make long before a crisis hits will determine how well you weather the storm.

Something to think about for the next time. 

Heidi Harris

4-19-20