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What the pandemic reveals about neglected areas of your life

This pandemic and the shutdowns and isolation resulting from it has been so hard on so many people, financially, socially, spiritually. Tough times remind us that we need to take care of things BEFORE disaster strikes. 

When times are good, and we’re busy chasing money or success, many areas of our lives just flow along, and we might not notice the cracks in the foundation. But when the storm comes, suddenly we become aware of things we should have shored up. Some of the major areas of our lives that will really suffer, or be revealed by a crisis, are the following:

Marriage:

If you’re in a bad marriage, either because you made a poor choice, or chose a good person but didn’t bother to maintain a healthy marriage, you’re in trouble this year. I cannot imagine being stuck with someone all day, every day, when the situation is tense, or even violent. If you can get some counseling, please do. Or if you need to get OUT, because your physical health is threatened, please find a way. Reach out to friends or family. 

If you’re not married and you’d like to be, this is a really tough time. Dating is practically out, and how much fun is going places to meet people in masks? Plenty of single people lead meaningful lives, but it’s good to have someone to share the good and bad times with. Those who were living in the moment, discarding “imperfect” people on a whim before the world changed are regretting it now, when they don’t have someone they can count on. 

Kids:

If your kids are ungrateful little brats, either because you didn’t raise them well, or were too busy chasing your version of “success” to notice, its just gotten real. Now you’ve got two more hats: Entertainment Director and Teacher. How do you like it? It’s not fun when they’re disrespectful, is it? Now you understand what the teacher was referring to. Maybe now you’ll have more sympathy for the ones who have to deal with your kids, or you could always start doing your job as a parent. Every day’s a new day! 

Friendships: 

Let’s face it – life gets busy, and maintaining a friendship is work. You talk about the need to “catch up”, but the next thing you know, a year has gone by and you still have not gotten together with that friend for a cup of coffee. (Especially this year. What’s even open?) Sometimes you literally have to put it down in your calendar, or it doesn’t happen. 

If you’ve not bothered to cultivate any new friendships or nurture the ones you already have, you’re in trouble in times like these. Many people I know are depressed, and a lack of social life is partly to blame. Sometimes you just need someone other than your spouse to talk to, or whine to, even over the phone. 

On the other hand, times like these make you re-evaluate who is worth your time. Some friendships are just draining. Admit it – you’re tired of providing free counseling services, or only be someone to dump on. You can’t get them on the phone when you could use some encouragement, but they expect you to be available for drive-in drama 24/7. Only you can decide if that friendship is a two-way street, or if you’re just being used. Now might be a good time to cut the cord, gently. You have a built-in excuse. 

Physical health: 

If you never get off the couch, the chickens are really coming home to roost this year. I’m not a doctor, but from what we all hear and read, having preexisting conditions is a big factor in Covid survival. Sometimes you’ve inherited things that aren’t your fault, but more often, your own neglect of your health is the major factor. 

I’m not judging – I have the palate of an eight year-old. I totally understand. I get paid to read and talk. I could sit on my butt all day, and I’d have an excuse. And I rarely sleep well. Getting up at 2 AM for 20 years doesn’t look good on the actuary tables. Just sayin’. (I’ve checked) Lack of restful, restorative sleep and too much sugar will catch up with me eventually, (maybe in the next pandemic). In the meantime, at least I walk about an hour every day. I’m sure that helped when I got Covid. 

Neglecting your health is a huge factor in life generally, and will catch up with you sooner or later. If Covid didn’t get you this time, something that comes around next time might. We’re all gonna die, but how about feeling better while you’re here? Stop smoking, don’t drink too much, no street drugs, (even legal ones), get off the couch, and even if you’re stuck indoors most of the time, you’ll feel better. 

Financial health: 

If you’re in financial straits because you’ve been living beyond your means, or even within your means at the moment, with no reserve, you’re in trouble now. Over extended, over leveraged, credit cards maxed out, huge car note, no savings…this is all coming home to roost now, and it’s not pretty. We’ve all heard experts say that you should have 3-6 months’ living expenses saved, but sadly most people don’t. If you did, you’d be in fairly good shape now, or at least not panicked. There will be foreclosures, evictions, repossessions. They’ve already started. A lesson for the future when things get back to anything resembling “normal”. 

Spiritual health: 

Frankly this should be Number One, because if you wait until a crisis to look for God, you’ll find Him, but wouldn’t it have been better if you’d had the spiritual muscle ahead of time? God is doing something with this situation, pruning us in some way, hopefully making us appreciate what really matters, and discarding the rest. I completely believe that, and although my husband and I have also been affected by this virus, physically and financially, we know that God’s still on the throne. He won’t let us go hungry. 

Although God is always patient with us, waiting until the balloon goes up is not the best time to get serious about Him. You need that strength, lack of fear, and solid belief to get your through things like this. A church family can also be a huge help in tough times. 

Some people may have to redefine what constitutes a “need” versus a “want” at this time, but I promise, God will not let you go hungry. That doesn’t mean you won’t lose your car with that $800 monthly payment, or maybe even have to move, but you won’t starve, I promise. You might have to cut back, give up cable and the silly luxuries that many in the world can only dream about, but you’ll survive. Resilient people always find a way. Have you noticed that? 

Anyone who honestly believed politicians held the solution to anything surely knows better by now, right? They do what’s best for THEM, politically. Period. Most politicians have no leadership skills, and no ability to make decisions. They’re politicians, not problem solvers. If you haven’t paid much attention to these clowns before this crisis, hopeful you are doing so now. When the rubber meets the road we start to realize how useless some of these people really are. 

God always has the answers. He can be trusted to never leave you. Politicians will forget your name until the next election. 

Bottom line: Don’t neglect the most important areas of your life. Make the effort to maintain your marriage, family, friendships, health, and most importantly you spiritual life, and you’ll weather the storms of life much better. 

Heidi Harris

9-28-10

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #222: Fear will last far longer than lockdowns

As any advertising executive or politician knows, fear is powerful. The fear of catching Coronavirus is far more powerful than the statistics would suggest, yet people are afraid of going to the dentist or getting needed medical care, because they’re terrified they’ll get the virus. Folks who are terrified to travel will damage the tourist industry for potentially years to come, vaccine or not.

The worst aspect of this emotion is that fear is turning us against each other. Politicians can’t be everywhere, so turning on each other is the next best thing. It worked pretty well in Nazi Germany and for Chairman Mao, and any other time government wants to limit your freedoms.

If you come to Vegas, you’re “gambling with your life”! Oh, no!

Yes, having fun is the worst possible thing you could do now. Traveling? Especially to Vegas? Even worse. You’d be “gambling with your life” according to Pro Publica.

Breaking news: There is inherent risk in LIVING. Getting on a plane that might crash, sitting next to someone who, even before March 2020, could give you God-knows-what disease. Drinking too much in Vegas. Hooking up in Vegas, and getting God-knows-what disease…Blowing the house payment on the penny slots…

Enough, already!

Of course the journalists writing this and the doctors they interview for the story have not lost a paycheck. As usual. Why don’t they talk to some business owners who have lost everything? Get their thoughts on things?

Sisolak’s “Mitigation” plan is worse than you think, and as vague as you’d expect.

Well, our illustrious Governor Sisolak has done it again. He’s drafted a “Long Term Mitigation Plan” that is vague to say the least. He’s offered no date or specific guidelines for bars and other affected businesses to open, and no date for churches to return to normal, although that is still in the courts. 

Here’s the kicker, straight from his “Road to Recovery” Returning to Normal”:

Instead of “Phases”, he has created “Mitigation Levels” to punish people. 

But get this. The “Metrics” he and his clown show “task force” will be looking at the following data:

1. Hospital Capacity

2. Access to Personal Protective Equipment

3. Testing Capacity

4. Case Investigation and Contact Tracing

5. Protection of Vulnerable Populations

6. Enforcement

As our Governor, he is RESPONSIBLE for EVERY one of those “metrics” except #1. He can’t be held responsible for how many people wind up in hospitals. No one can. Patients may have underlying conditions, wait to long to go to the hospital, etc. But it’s sure as hell not the fault of BAR OWNERS. 

Every OTHER metric is under his authority. He is the HEAD of our state. Everything that goes wrong is his fault. Hell, they blame Trump for everything that happens in America.

You wanted the job, Sisolak – now DO it. The bucks stops with him. The shit runs downhill, as they say.

In “Mitigation Level 2, “State licenses may be removed for targeted businesses if outbreaks at those locations cannot be controlled”. “Targeted”. Uh huh. 

First of all, NO business owner will allow a “uncontrolled outbreak” to occur at his or her businesss, and second, how the hell can you PROVE where you got something??

These are the details our largely fawning members of the press (who are still getting paychecks) are ignoring. Just thought I’d share them with you.

I read these things so you don’t have to. He’s hoping you don’t. 

Heidi Harris 

8-4-20

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #211: Attorney suing DETR to force them to pay benefits joins me with an update

It is unacceptable that so many people in Nevada have NOT gotten the unemployment benefits their government promised them. Of course no one should rely on government, but if you were PROMISED this unemployment benefit, or PUA if you’re a gig worker, you should GET it.

Our Governor Sisolak has FAILED the people of Nevada. It starts at the TOP. He keeps hundreds of thousands out of work, yet he won’t make certain they get benefits that could keep them in their homes and keep food on the table.

Attorney Mark Thierman, of Thierman Buck in Reno, has been suing the State of Nevada to get people paid. He joined me on my live show. Here’s our conversation.

Is anyone surprised that Chinese censorship prevented the truth from coming out?

Who’s surprised that Chinese censorship affected the information we needed here in the States? That’s why it’s more properly called the China Flu, whether or not people like it.

Vegas recovery could take 18-36 months!!!??

Some analysts are saying so. Can people stay in Vegas and wait it out? Change careers? Just pull up stakes and leave? And go WHERE?

Heidi Harris Show Podcast #210: Terrified people have become useful idiots for controlling politicians

I’m bored with hearing people who no longer have to work, telling the rest of us to stay home. Goody for you, that you can stay home, or you’re retired, or that your house is paid for. I’d like to keep mine, as would hundreds of thousands of other Nevadans and Americans. Livelihoods matter as much as lives.

You can stay home, but don’t stop the rest of us from trying to preserve what we’ve built.

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